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Why Do Women Love Their Special Someones?

by Sheron Long on February 13, 2014

Man holding a sign saying "I love you," symbolizing a message and love quotes for Valentine's Day. (Image © © Ashley Matheny)

Yes, women love their special someones, but the reasons may surprise you!
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Love Quotes Get to the Heart of the Matter For Valentine’s Day

When it comes to love, we’ve always been curious about what matters most. So, on the occasion of Valentine’s Day, we decided to ask The OIC Community to tell us why they love their valentines.

From the quotes we received, we assembled a remarkable collection from women.

Red heart with headphones, symbolizing listening to love quotes for Valentine's Day. (Image © dvarg / iStock)

Listen in and gain perspective. The love quotes reveal a range of reasons—from the little things that matter to significant love-affirming attitudes and actions that make a relationship sing.

You might even find yourself saying, “Oh, I see a way to be more lovable myself!”

Saying, “You’re Special”

Love builds with constant reminders that you matter to someone. What counts? A look, a few words, a touching gift, or anything that says, “You’re special.”

I love my special someone because . . .

For five years, he has told me, “Good morning, Beautiful” every morning without fail.   —April Wooff

Cartoon of an envelope with eyes, red lips, and legs, carrying a message of love for Valentine's Day. (Image © lineartestpilot / iStock)

A welcome message: “Good morning, Beautiful!”
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He has been beside me for 20 years. We were 19 and 20 when we got married, and we were young and dumb . . . and broke. So, I never had a REAL wedding dress. He knew this was always something I regretted, especially after having our daughter 10 years ago. He has surprised me and planned an entire vow renewal for us. He even bought me a dress! I love this man to the moon and back!   —Jenniffer Eads 

He made me feel sexy when I was bald from head to toe with breast cancer.          —Sara Drulis

The little things seem to count, too. Most often mentioned—cooking something tasty, making the coffee, cleaning the house, holding open a door.

Heart-shaped tomato, illustrating a love quote for Valentine's Day. (Image © pryzmat / iStock)

Helping with dinner
is a chance to add the love.
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Small deeds, indeed! But helping out seems to say, “I’m no more special than you. Let’s share the daily doings.”

Being There, Taking Care

The love quotes used different words to describe that special someone:

my soul mate     the love of my life     my rock     my all     my heart

But the most frequently mentioned was best friend. And that’s the person a woman can count on for support and encouragement, thoughtfulness and sensitivity—the person who has the key to her heart.

Old key, illustrating love quotes on Valentine's Day about how befriending your special someone gives you the key to her heart. (Image © NikiLitov / iStock)

Being a true friend is key.
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I love my special someone because . . .

He is the most generous giver I’ve ever met—a giver of time, resources, energy, love, hugs, support to anyone. He is his children’s biggest supporter and my best friend.   —Miss Bradford

He pushes me to be my best.   —Samantha G.

He never gave up on me!   —Stacy Novack

He is raising my son as his own.   —Kaye Newman

And then there are the tough times, when “being there and taking care” test a relationship. Those who make it through these “thin” times together have a rock-solid love.

Ellipsis and heart painted on a sidewalk, illustrating love quotes on Valentine's Day about how the tough times can lead to a rock-solid relationship with your special someone. (Image © edelweiss7227 / iStock)

How you treat someone in the tough times can lead to love set in stone.
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I love my special someone because . . .

Through all these years of really hard times (he had an accident at work seven years ago), we’ve managed to keep it together, being each other’s cheerleaders. So many couples we know say they wish they could communicate like we do, and that makes me proud!   —Patti D.

Enjoying Life Together

Can a sense of humor and a positive attitude lead to love?  Judging from the love quotes, yes—the bigger the smile, the greater the love song.

I love my special someone because . . .

He is the most positive person I know! No matter what life throws at him, he’s always smiling and a joy to be around.   —Tamra H.

Above all, he makes me laugh. There are many other reasons, but this is the biggest.   —Lisa Carr

He’s fun to be around. He has an ease about him that just feels comfortable. He’s open-minded, easy to talk to, and hot, hot, hot!!   —Nichole Smith 

Two steaming cups of coffee in heart-shaped cups, illustrating love quotes on how two people enjoy each other on Valentine's Day. (Image © Matka_Wariatka / iStock)

Enjoy life over two cups of hot, hot coffee!
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Hanging happily together is just THE BEST! These last two love quotes not only explain why people love each other, but why they stay together.

I love my special someone because . . .

It’s sweet for the both of us.   —Cherie

We complete each other.   —Michelle L.

OIC wishes you a Happy Valentine’s Day with this free ebook about LOVE, containing many more love quotes and perspectives from men and women. Click to download:

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Good Advice from A to Z — Life-Tested!

by Sheron Long on February 3, 2014

Speech balloon that says "My best piece of advice? It's to ____" used to prompt the OIC community to share good advice to live life well. (Image © Carsten Reisinger/iStock)

Answers to this question, posed to the OIC Community, bring life-tested advice your way!

The “Oh, I See” Community Speaks Up on How to Live Life Well

Here at OIC Moments, our readers are always learning and growing. They’ve amassed much wisdom from their life experiences and keep inspiring us with their insights!

So, when we asked for their best advice, we were not surprised to find a remarkable collection of life-tested wisdom.

Though each piece of advice expressed an individual’s truth, the collective wisdom of the community zeroed in on four essentials of life:

Button with the saying "Live life well," representing good advice from the OIC Community

  • Being happy
  • Getting through the tough times
  • Liking and investing in yourself
  • Respecting others

With thanks to the OIC Community, we’ve compiled their wisdoms into a free ebook Good Advice from A to Z to help you live life well. May you find an “Oh, I see” moment or two in their wisdom, starting with a selection of their advice in this post.

Happiness Is What Counts

Angel Buffalino articulated why happiness is at the core of life:

“Be happy in whatever you do. Nothing else will matter if you aren’t happy.”      —Angel Buffalino

And Stephanie Owens suggested a quick way to find your smile when you’re blue:

Smiling man illustrate this good advice to live life well: Turn a frown upside down. :)

But where does happiness come from?  No one mentioned money or status or material goods as the source. Instead, the OIC view is that happiness comes from attitude:

“My dad always told me, ‘Just BE HAPPY.’ Don’t whine and complain about things you can’t change. Don’t dwell on a bad situation. Just SMILE and you will instantly feel better. And when you feel good, good things will come to you.”   —Carl L. Smith, Jr.

To be happy, the community recommended some great approaches to life:

“Free your mind, cherish every moment, live, and enjoy your life.”                    —M. Bucarelli

Woman sitting happily in a cafe illustrates this good advice to live life well: Live with no regrets.

“The advice I’ve always followed and continue to give: Listen to your heart.”   —Rhonda Best

“Save some of that ‘making everyone else’ happy time to make yourself happy.”   —Justine Gooding

Today in the field of positive psychology, pioneered by Dr. Martin Seligman at the University of Pennsylvania, scientists are studying happiness to uncover ways it can be strengthened. This new science of happiness reveals that people, who turn positive behaviors like the above into habits, are happier. Find more on “The Habits of Supremely Happy People,” in this Huffington Post article.

Weathering the Storms 

One thing’s for sure in life—tough times will come your way. Christine knows that they are actually an important part of getting good at life. She said:

Ship in a turbulent sea illustrates this good advice to live life well: Smooth seas do not make good sailors.

Venessa Kelly is a good sailor. In her life, she experienced the storm as well as the sunshine that followed:

“ ‘What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger’ is my favorite quote. I’m a widowed mom of two wonderful young boys. In the darkest time of my life, I’ve managed to overcome so much pain and sadness and gained the strength to provide for our little family and make us happy again.”                   —Vennesa Kelly

Just as attitude plays a role in happiness, the OIC community also saw a positive attitude as a powerful strategy for getting through the tough times:

“If you can’t change a situation, try changing the way you look at the situation.”   —Kim Mignella

What You’re Made Of

In advising on identity and personal growth, the community saw a balancing act! On the one hand, there were recommendations for liking yourself the way you are and staying true to yourself:

“My best advice for anyone is to be yourself, always—the only person you have to answer to is yourself, and nobody can take that away from you. You then can be your best critic, and you alone can rectify your own mistakes. Being just YOU is simply original and unique.”   —Anitha Kuppuswamy

Legs of four people seated, one wearing bright green shoes and representing good advice on living life for yourself

On the other hand, many advised investing in yourself, pushing the limits, and seeking continuous improvement:

“My dad used to say, ‘Get yourself an education. You can’t lose it, and nobody can take it away from you.’ ”   —Barbara Mayes

“By attempting something really difficult and outside of your comfort zone, you will discover how strong you really are.”   —Serena Adkins

“Make mistakes. Make them often. But don’t ever make the mistake of not trying.”   —Anne

Finding the balance, it seems, is a uniquely personal decision.

A Matter of Respect

Amid the life advice from the OIC community, the most often repeated was to:

A man pours tea for a woman, representing good advice from the OIC Community on treating people the way you want to be treated.

 Treating others as you want to be treated is a matter of respect. And the community advised on several DOs and DON’Ts:

“Be kind to everyone.”   —Bill Digiglio

“Be humble.”   —Leland Lee

“Never talk badly about others so they have nothing bad to say about you!”   —Melissa Mazzur

“When you stop expecting people and situations to be perfect, you can start to appreciate them for whom and what they are.”   —Susan Stickney

Relationships get stronger when respect is the basis. And that brings us back to happiness to which all the advice is related. Happiness is about feeling good and finding meaning in life, all of which comes to people who maintain good relationships, feel they are worthwhile, can make contributions, and are strong enough to get through tough times.

Enjoy the full collection of wisdom from the OIC Community in this free ebook. Download here:

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Comment on this post below, or inspire insight with your own OIC Moment here.

Photo credits—speech balloon graphic: © Carsten Reisinger/iStock; smiling man: © Siri Stafford/Digital Vision; woman in cafe: © Purestock; ship in storm: © Eric Gevart/Hemera; people sitting: © Getty Images; couple sharing tea: Thomas Northcutt/Digital Vision. 

American Freedoms at Your Dinner Table

by Sheron Long on July 4, 2013

Fourth of July dinner table, a good place to discuss American freedoms and gain perspective

Eat a little, talk a little this Fourth of July
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Gain Perspective, Not Weight, on the Fourth of July

Today, the Fourth of July, OIC Moments sends insights to share when your dinner table conversation turns to American freedoms.

There’s sure to be dissent—One guest speaks; not everyone agrees. Could it be, as Lady Bird Johnson said, “The clash of ideas is the sound of freedom”?

Hoping you will gain perspective from the raucous sounds of freedom around your table, we offer three questions and some conversation starters. Try them out and see where the conversation goes.

1. What Does Freedom Feel Like?

Conversation starters:

The truth is I love being alive. And I love feeling free. So, if I can’t have those things, then I feel like a caged animal and I’d rather not be in a cage. I’d rather be dead. And it’s real simple. And I think it’s not that uncommon.

—Angelina Jolie (1975– ), actress and humanitarian

Woman dancing freely, illustrating the joy of American freedoms

Ah, the feeling of freedom!
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Freedom is control in your own life.

 —Willie Nelson (1933– ), country music singer-songwriter

Freedom is just Chaos, with better lighting.

—Alan Dean Foster (1946– ), writer best known for works in science fiction and fantasy

You have freedom when you’re easy in your harness.

—Robert Frost (1874–1963),  poet

Harness? That sounds like freedom might come with limitations and that leads us right to the next question.

2. Where Are the Limits of Freedom?

Conversation starters:

Many people don’t understand how disciplined you have to be to play jazz . . . . And that is really the idea of democracy—freedom within the Constitution or discipline. You don’t just get out there and do anything you want.

—Dave Brubeck (1920–2012), jazz pianist and composer

I do think there are certain times we should infringe on your freedom.

— Michael Bloomberg (1942– ), businessman, philanthropist, and mayor of NYC for three terms beginning in 2002

 One of the things that bothers me most is the growing belief in the country that security is more important than freedom. It ain’t.

—Lyn Nofziger (1924–2006), journalist and White House adviser to President Ronald Reagan

The magic of America is that we’re a free and open society with a mixed population. Part of our security is our freedom.

 —Madeleine Albright (1937– ), diplomat and Secretary of State in the Clinton Administration

Different Americans pledge allegiance to the US flag in honor of the American freedoms celebrated on the Fourth of July

Many different people call America “Home.”
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3. What Does Freedom Cost? How Do We Pay it Forward?

John Quincy Adams, US President from 1825–1829 and son of the second President of the US John Adams, had this message for the generations that followed him: “Posterity: you will never know how much it has cost my generation to preserve your freedom. I hope you will make good use of it.”

The American generations that followed discovered that they, too, had to preserve freedom with continuing vigilance through wars abroad and social change at home.

Patriotic sign, helping people gain perspective on what it takes to preserve American freedoms

Each generation is called upon to boldly preserve American freedoms for the next generation.
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Consider the perspectives of these American voices as you think now about what you and your generation can do to keep freedom alive.

Conversation starters:

Freedom is a muscle . . . you have to exercise it.

—Roy Scheider (1932–2008), actor, choreographer, and film director

Freedom is not an ideal, it is not even a protection, if it means nothing more than freedom to stagnate, to live without dreams, to have no greater aim than a second car and another television set.

—Adlai E. Stevenson (1900–1965), politician, governor of Illinois, and Ambassador to the United Nations

Freedom isn’t free. It shouldn’t be a bragging point that ‘Oh, I don’t get involved in politics,’ as if that makes someone cleaner. No, that makes you derelict of duty in a republic. Liars and panderers in government would have a much harder time of it if so many people didn’t insist on their right to remain ignorant and blindly agreeable.

—Bill Maher (1956– ), comedian, TV host, and political commentator

So keep fightin’ for freedom and justice, beloveds, but don’t you forget to have fun doin’ it. Lord, let your laughter ring forth. Be outrageous, ridicule the fraidy-cats, rejoice in all the oddities that freedom can produce.

—Molly Ivins (1944–2007), journalist, humorist, and political commentator

Your “Oh, I See” Moment?

Listen to the voices of freedom ringing around your dinner table. Did any one of them make you say, “Oh, I see” today? Leave a comment and let us know your insight. 

Handprint with US flag motif, illustrating how each American leaves a mark on the American freedoms celebrated on the Fourth of July

What imprint will you leave on America’s freedoms?
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All quotes from Brainy Quote

For a perspective on American freedoms through an immigrant’s eyes, see this interview with William Holston of the Human Rights Initiative of North Texas.

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