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The World Weighs In On Gift Giving

by Sheron Long on December 2, 2013

Boy chasing after Santa and a gift, illustrating the pressures of the gift-giving season. (Image © Alphaspirit / iStock)

Chasing after the perfect gift
© Alphaspirit / iStock

There’s Wisdom in World Proverbs

The power of a considered gift is stunning. The world has told us that for years:

Gifts break rocks and melt hearts. —Uruguayan

Now that’s a high standard. How am I ever going to melt the hearts of everyone on my list? What happens if gifts exchanged aren’t “equal”? And how can I say “Thanks” and mean it?

I could have talked it over with my dog or asked Emily Post, but instead I decided to consult the whole wide world. Listen in on the conversation.

Girl holding out a gift, representing the act of gift giving. (Image © Kemal Bas / iStock)

Is it the gift or the smile behind it that melts the heart?
© Kemal Bas / iStock

Hey, World.  Where’s the Perfect Gift?

My husband Bob has it all—good looks, a fun personality. . . and too much stuff.

Ralph here. Ralph Waldo Emerson. Though my advice is not a proverb, it’s still quotable: The only gift is a portion of thyself. 

I don’t think this means to give him an arm and a leg—something more like an experience or an adventure, just spending time together?

I may be Author Unknown, but—yes, you’re right: Every day is a gift, and that is why it’s called the present. 

Oh, I see. The gift of time for Bob will melt his heart and keep clutter away. And here’s some real help from Brooke McAlary: 30 ideas for clutter-free gifts.

Family on a hike together, illustrating how time together is the best idea for gift giving.

Time together! For this year’s gift giving, get out of the house and keep the clutter from getting in.
© Fuse

What If My Gift Isn’t “Equal”?

There are so many ways “equal” plays with your brain. Equal to last year. Equal to what I get. Equal in cost. Equal in expectations. Help me, world! Give me the gift of some good advice.

Giving is not trading. —Swahili

Hands that give also receive. —Ecuadoran

Wait a minute. That’s a contradiction, I think. Tell me more.

What you give you get, ten times over. —Yoruba

Starting to get it now. The gifts don’t have to be equal because just the giving gives the giver a rewarding gift, right?

Right!: A bit of the fragrance always clings to the hand that gives you roses. —Chinese

Man holding roses for gift giving. (Image © Plush Studios / Blend Images)

A good gift is thoughtful, chosen with your friend in mind.
That makes it equal, no matter what the cost.
© Plush Studios / Blend Images

OK, I’m learning a lot, but here’s one thing I already know: The fun in giving is thinking about what jazzes your friend and connecting your gift to it. If you have a vampire friend, this means, “Don’t give garlic!”

Shocked vampire taking garlic out of a gift box, illustrating bad gift giving. (Image © Elisanth_ / iStock)

The perfect gift for a vampire is NOT garlic!
© Elisanth_ / iStock

But if you have a granddaughter who loves music and you have a talent, share it.

Learning is a treasure that will follow its owner everywhere. —Chinese

Christella Morris at Crawl the Line must already know this bit of wisdom, too—she gives such good ideas and even better reasons to share your experience and your time.

OIC again: When two people give each other something each one loves, the gifts are always equal.

Grandmother teaching her granddaughter to play the piano, illustrating the best kind of gift-gving. (Image © Jack Hollingsworth / Photodisc)

Passing on your gifts may be the most perfect gift of all.
© Jack Hollingsworth / Photodisc

What’s the Best Way to Say “Thanks”?

Long time ago, I learned about the mouth of the gift horse. As horses get older, their gums recede. Look closely and you can tell if the horse is old (long in the tooth) or new for you.  Guess that means it’s bad to inspect a gift too closely.

You can say that again, and how many ways do we have to tell you?

Look not a gift horse in the mouth. —Danish, Dutch, French, Italian, Spanish, Romanian

If you receive a gift, don’t measure it. —Kenyan

You do not look at a sheep someone has given you. —Swahili

 Alright. No inspecting, but—you know—it’s hard to hide your true feelings.

Man showing different emotions related to gift giving. (Image © Aleksandr Frolov / Hemera)

Tell me how you really feel!
© Aleksandr Frolov / Hemera

Being a bad liar, I need a world of help here. Last year, a good friend gave me a “Santa Liar, Pants on Fire” (perhaps to honor my obsession with honesty). It was a candle, and you get what part lit up. And you can imagine the position.

How can I say a genuine “Thanks” for that?

A stone from the hand of a friend is an apple. —Moroccan

The giver makes the gift precious. —American

Gee, thanks. All I needed was a new view.  Now I know if I focus on the thoughtful giver and not the gift, I’m sure to smile.

Girl giving gift to father, illustrating a proverb from world cultures. (Image © Todd Wright / Blend Images)

No matter how small the gift or the giver,
a look into your daughter’s eyes makes her gift special.
© Todd Wright / Blend Images

And with that, we wish you a happy gift-giving season, full of the proverbial wisdom from world cultures. Thanks for opening our posts this year. We hope the “Oh, I see” moments inside are gifts that put a smile on your face all year ’round.

Comment on this post below, or inspire insight with your own OIC Moment here.

Joshua Becker offers a treasure trove of intangible gifts that you can pass along to your children. 

Swahili proverbs are from the Center for African Studies at the University of Illinois. “Every day is a gift. . .” is from Inspiration Falls. All others are from one or more of the cross-cultural collections at Special Dictionary, Quotes & Sayings, or Proverbia

How Creative Thinking Kicks The Soccket Ball to Success

by Sheron Long on November 7, 2013

Brain-shaped light bulb symbolizing the power of creative thinking to solve problems

When brain power lights up and creative thinking flows, people find the
good ideas that solve perplexing problems.
© iStock

Powered by Play

In 2008, for an engineering project at Harvard, Jessica O. Matthews teamed up with Julia Silverman, to prototype a soccer ball that traps kinetic energy during play and then turns the energy into a light source.

They called it the SOCCKET because a light inserted into the ball uses the stored energy for power. Thirty minutes of play harnesses enough energy to power a LED light for three hours.

During soccer play, a pendulum-like mechanism inside the SOCCKET captures the kinetic energy and stores it in the ball for later use as an off-grid power source.© Uncharted Play Team

During soccer play, a pendulum-like mechanism inside the SOCCKET captures the kinetic energy and stores it in the ball for later use as an off-grid power source.
© Uncharted Play Team

In 2011, Matthews and Silverman co-founded Uncharted Play to produce the SOCCKET and thereby harness the power of play as a power source for people.

Their story is a fascinating one on how creative thinking, fortitude, and perspiration lead to successful products. And their work illustrates (at least) five stages of creative problem-solving.

1. Seeing the Need

Over 1.3 billion people worldwide lack access to electricity that is reliable, affordable, clean, and safe.

As a result, households use dangerous sources of power, such as kerosene lamps and diesel generators, which cause nearly 2 million deaths per year and harm the environment. According to Uncharted Play, “Living with fumes from one kerosene lamp is the equivalent of smoking two packs of cigarettes every day.”

Jessica O. Matthews, who applied creative thinking to invent the SOCCKET ball. Image © Uncharted Play Team.

Jessica Matthews,
CEO of Uncharted Play
© Uncharted Play Team

Matthews explains how she came to understand the need:

Just a few months before the SOCCKET was first developed, I visited Nigeria for my uncle’s wedding. I remember very distinctively choking on the fumes of a diesel generator outside their house.

My cousins said, “Don’t worry, you’ll get used to it.” Their complacency really bothered me.

2. Putting Two and Two Together

Though her relatives didn’t want to change the situation, Matthews noticed that they did want to play soccer:

Around my aunt’s compound, kids were kicking around whatever they could find. I even saw kids playing soccer with a bottle cap. Still, their skills were more impressive than those seen in a FIFA level game. 

As often happens in a creative “Oh, I see” moment, Matthews combined the two ideas and the inspiration for the SOCCKET came alive.

Typographic art using two light bulbs to replace the o's in "Solution" and symbolizing how creative thinking is often seeing the connection between two disparate ideas. Image © iStock.

Often, it takes seeing the connection between TWO disparate ideas to come up with a creative solution.
© iStock

The solution she envisioned would use people’s passion for play to create the power for households, allowing kids to study and families to accomplish tasks after dark.

Boy studying after dark with the light of the SOCCKET, a creative solution for families in energy-deprived locations. Image © Uncharted Play Team.

The SOCCKET can provide light to read at night in developing nations.
© Uncharted Play Team

3. Getting the Idea Off the Ground

After prototyping the SOCCKET for their engineering project, Matthews and Silverman (who were studying to be social scientists, not engineers) discovered the inevitable obstacles that come with pursuing an idea.

In an interview with Inc., Matthews discussed how she ran into an engineering community that insisted “there was no way to build a ball that would be light enough to kick and capable of generating substantial energy.”

That’s where the perspiration came in. She “taught herself the basics of soldering, building circuitry boards, and whatever else it would take to bring the idea to fruition.” The final SOCCKET weighs only one ounce more than a soccer ball.

Soccer balls rising from grass, symbolizing how a creative idea gets off the ground.

Textbook Example: As happens with many ideas, it was harder to get
the SOCCKET off the ground than to think it up.
© iStock

Matthews also had to maintain a strong belief in the value of her idea. As she says of the SOCCKET:

I knew it would be a good product at the very least. I never once said that it could be huge; I only said that it was meaningful. I was very persistent in my belief the SOCCKET would matter to people in a way that made it worth continuing its development. So I pursued it.

And she gives due credit to her naiveté in business, citing it as an advantage in not worrying about what could stop her.

4. Going for Quality

On the journey from the creative idea to the quality solution, Matthew’s company recognized the importance of testing, listening, debriefing, redesigning, and retesting.

The SOCCKET after plenty of use in field trials that are essential to creative problem-solving. Image © Uncharted Pay Team.

Companies with a commitment to quality always kick around a new product before its release.
The SOCCKET took plenty of kicks in field trials this fall in Nigeria.
© Uncharted Play Team

So far, over 10,000 SOCCKETS have been tested in Central and South America, Africa, and in a few communities in the USA.

New ideas emerged, so the SOCCKET that goes on sale in the next few months will also come in a Portable Power Kit—one SOCCKET and ten portable lamps that remain lit for an hour after a 25-second charge from the SOCCKET.

Diagram showing how multiple lamps can be charged from one SOCCKET and representing the importance of product testing in reaching creative solutions. © Uncharted Play Team.

Testing a product leads to improvements. Uncharted Play identified the need to charge multiple lights from one SOCCKET and to make the lights portable.
© Uncharted Play Team

According to Uncharted Play, “That way, children living in off-grid communities can play with a single SOCCKET ball as a team at school and still have their own personal light for reading . . . each night.”

5. Keep Asking “What’s Next?”

Consistent with its mission to inspire people around the world to lead playful lives and to foster well-being from that play, Matthew’s company keeps the creative thinking going.

  • For the developing world, it has prototyped other energy-generating play “tools,” like jump ropes that hold four times as much power as the SOCCKET.
  • For the developed world, it has created a smart soccer ball called Ludo, due out in 2014. A motion sensor detects time used in play. The number of minutes are converted into Play Points that individuals can “spend” to direct donations from sponsors to social development projects.

It looks like the power of play will keep such creative problem-solving going for years to come!

Jessica O. Matthews and Julia Silverman were honored by the Harvard Foundation in 2012 as “Scientists of the Year.”  To keep up with the latest at Unchartered Play, check their Facebook page.

Comment on this post below, or inspire insight with your own OIC Moment here.

Connect Kids and Nature, And What Do You Get?

by Janine Boylan on September 30, 2013

children at play sign, illustrating a better life

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A Better Life

Test yourself—

  • What percentage of preschoolers go outside daily with a parent?
  • About how many hours do children spend outside on a weekday?
  • Do children spend more or less time outdoors today than children did twenty years ago?

See answers below.*

Yes, the “Caution: Children at Play” signs are still on the streets, but the real caution today is that children are not playing outside. In fact, they are losing touch with nature and are losing out on better lives.

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