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The Life-Changing Experience of Love

by Janine Boylan on June 27, 2013

wedding rings as a symbol of marriage equality

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Picturing Marriage Equality

Through the ages, many wise words have been spoken of love and marriage.

Love is a promise;

love is a souvenir,

once given never forgotten,

never let it disappear.

—John Lennon

San Francisco wedding, showing the life-changing experience of marriage

United for life
© Nathaniel Brewer

There is no remedy for love but to love more.

—Henry David Thoreau

Steven and Charles, showing the life-changing event of marriage

Steven Beaulieu & Charles Lafond
© Ryan Clarke

To love someone is to see a miracle invisible to others.

—Francois Mauriac 

Happy couple, showing the life-changing experience of marriage

Family fun
© Nicole Hein

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.

—Lao Tzu

women displaying their rings, showing the life-changing experience of marriage

Let love reign
© Catalina Kulczar-Marin

When you love someone, all your saved-up wishes start coming out.

—Elizabeth Bowen

Michael and Terrence, showing the life-changing experience of marriage

Michael and Terrence Sheppherd with their daughter Madison
© Sam Verkaik

Love is a canvas furnished by nature and embroidered by imagination.

—Voltaire

Virginia family, showing the life-changing experience of marriage

Nicole’s family
© Annie Riker

DOMA [The Defense of Marriage Act] instructs all federal officials, and indeed all persons with whom same-sex couples interact, including their own children, that their marriage is less worthy than the marriages of others. The federal statute is invalid, …the federal statute is in violation of the Fifth Amendment.

-Justice Kennedy

Poster celebrating the life-changing experience of marriage

Poster created to mark the day the Supreme Court heard arguments in favor of,
and against, marriage equality.
© Joel MaHarry

Oh, I see the life-changing power of love and marriage!

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Creative Ways To Say “I Love You”

by Meredith Mullins on February 14, 2013

Marvelous spatuletail has a creative way to say I love you and teaches us a life lesson in the process.

The Marvelous Spatuletail and his elegant tail feathers.
© Crawford. H. Greenewalt/VIREO

Valentine Love Stories Reveal Life Lessons

How can you send a meaningful Valentine’s message in a memorable way?

Chocolates

Flowers

Romantic dinner

Soul-revealing poem

Champagne toast

A truthful pledge to your loved ones that you think about them every day and not just on the Hallmark holidays?

As you ponder how best to show your love on Valentine’s Day, we offer some wacky/weird love stories and “Oh, I see” moments—creative ways to say “I love you” from our feathered and spiny friends.

Are there life lessons here? Read on . . .

The Marvelous Spatuletail: Good Looks Aren’t Everything 

The Marvelous Spatuletail hummingbird really doesn’t need the word “marvelous” in his title at all. He just is. The male has elegant tail feathers, like a fluid Calder mobile or a hat at a British royal wedding.

His “tails” cross each other in graceful arcs and end with vibrant violet blue discs. He can move these feathers independently like an expert exotic dancer whirls her tassels.

The Marvelous Spatuletail is great looking. But does he rest on looks alone? Not a chance. He’s almost extinct in his native Peruvian forest-edge habitat (deforestation is the cause), so he gives the mating ritual his all.

He twirls. He spins. He flaunts his spatules. And, for the grand finale, he revs up and frantically waves his tail feathers as he hovers in front of a female. Hey, look at me! Hey look at me! Who could resist?

If video does not display, watch it here.

His dance is flashy and his tail speed impressive. Does he really need all that show?

Oh, I see. There can be good reasons to show off a little (not the least of which is preventing your own extinction). But there can also be more to love than flash (and tail speed). As H. Jackson Brown, Jr. said

Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye.

The Bowerbird: Setting the Stage for Love

Some might call the bowerbird a perfectionist, or workaholic. But most will applaud his desire to make everything perfect for his mate. With the skill of an architect and the eye of a flawless interior decorator, his choices are thoughtful and thorough.

The bowerbird shows creative ways to say "I love you" and teaches us a life lesson about building a beautiful home.

The bowerbird hunting for tasteful decor for his bachelor pad
© Thinkstock

He builds an elaborate tower and then tastefully appoints his home with beetles, nuts, flowers, leaves, and pebbles, and all manner of shiny things.

These gathered treasures are neatly, and artistically, arranged by color to attract the female. If one thing is out of place, he gets fussy. No disorderly bachelor pad for him. Everything is categorized and organized.

When a potential mate is attracted by the treasure trove of decorations, the bowerbird begins his song and dance, hoping that his musical abilities (and interior design skills) will set just the right romantic mood.

Oh, I see. As Mother Teresa said:

Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do . . . but how much love we put in that action.

(And a word of advice, Mr. Bowerbird. Lighten up, nobody likes a control freak.)

The Seahorse: A True Romantic

How can something so sharp around the edges and so full of spiny armor be so romantic at heart? Seahorses are just plain old-fashioned. They believe in courtship, slow dancing, and holding hands (well, holding tails).

A seahorse couple faces each other as they show creative ways to say "I love you."

The romantic slow dance of seahorses in love
© Thinkstock

Seahorse couples can be seen floating side by side, with their tails intertwined, or even floating face to face, where their bodies conveniently form a heart shape . . . to put them in the mood for love.

When the mating ritual begins, they dance gracefully, swirling around each other seductively, looking deeply into each other’s stony eyes.

Add to that the fact that seahorses are monogamous and the male carries the eggs until they’re hatched, and you have the ingredients for a perfect relationship.

Oh, I see. Romance, a faithful relationship, and a sharing of family responsibilities are hard to resist. Or, as Tom Robbins said:

We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.

A Valentine Vote

Men and women may have different views on what makes for a good valentine. Weigh in and check back to see how results shape up.

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This Valentine’s Day, creative ways to say “I Love You” abound. All you need is a little imagination.

At the end of the day, though, love is what you make it. And . . . when all else fails, shake a tail feather, baby.

Video VIA Greg R. Homel and The American Bird Conservancy.

Quotes VIA Brainy Quote

See David Attenborough’s bowerbird video.

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Life Lessons in Holiday Spirit

by Meredith Mullins on December 20, 2012

Life lessons on holiday spirit with the Galeries Lafayette Christmas tree

Galeries Lafayette Holiday Tree
© Meredith Mullins

Top 10 Quotes for the Holidays

It is hard to celebrate the holidays when so much seems to be going wrong. Flags are at half mast, politicians are acting their shoe size not their age, hurricane victims are still displaced, and missiles are flying over the Middle East, claiming the lives of innocents who just want to get on with their lives. The tragedy of Newtown, the fiscal cliff, hurricane devastation, and all out warfare in several countries have dimmed the sparkling lights.

But it is precisely these tumultuous events that make it important to revisit the spirit of the holidays and make life-affirming feelings a permanent part of our values.

Learning life lessons about holiday spirit with child staring in wonder at holiday window.

The Magic of Holiday Windows
© Meredith Mullins

As Agnes Pharo said, “What is Christmas? It is tenderness for the past, courage for the present, hope for the future. It is a fervent wish that every cup may overflow with blessings rich and eternal, and that every path may lead to peace.”

We know this to be true, but the OIC Moment comes with not letting these feelings slip away after the tree comes down or the menorah goes dark.

Here are my favorite top ten holiday quotes to remind us of what is important and how we might learn life lessons from tumult as well as strength of spirit.

1. Christmas! Tis the season for kindling the fire of hospitality in the hall, the genial fire of charity in the heart. (Washington Irving)

2. I will honor Christmas in my heart and try to keep it all year long. (Charles Dickens)

3. My idea of Christmas, whether old-fashioned or modern, is very simple: loving others. Come to think of it, why do we have to wait for Christmas to do that? (Bob Hope)

4. He who has not Christmas in his heart will never find it under a tree. (Roy L. Smith)

5. May the lights of Hanukkah usher in a better world for all humankind. (Hanukkah Blessing)

Lit menorah, Israel

The Lights of Hanukkuh
© Thinkstock

6. Christmas doesn’t come from a store, maybe Christmas perhaps means a little bit more. (Dr. Seuss, How the Grinch Stole Christmas)

7. To perceive Christmas through its wrappings becomes more difficult with every year. (E.B. White)

8. Next to a circus, there ain’t nothing that packs up and tears out faster than the Christmas spirit. (Kin Hubbard)

9. Christmas is a necessity. There has to be at least one day of the year to remind us that we’re here for something else besides ourselves.” (Eric Sevareid)

10. And wild and sweet, the words repeat of peace on earth, good will to men. (Henry Wadsworth Longfellow)

And a bonus from Dave Barry:

In the old days, it was not called the Holiday Season; the Christians called it “Christmas” and went to church; the Jews called it “Hanukkah” and went to synagogue; the atheists went to parties and drank. People passing each other on the street would say “Merry Christmas!” or “Happy Hanukkah!” or (to the atheists) “Look out for the wall!”

We look forward to your favorite holiday quote or words of wisdom in the Comments section below.

Learning a life lesson about holiday spirit with Santa and children.

All I want for Christmas . . .
© Meredith Mullins

Happy holidays! May your hearts be full and the hope for peace not just a distant dream.

Quotes courtesy of Brainy Quote, All Great Quotes, and Goodreads

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