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Heading South to Ecuador And North on Life Goals

by Bruce Goldstone on December 30, 2013

Bilingual sign in Ecuador, part of a language learning experience that caused a shift in life goals. (Image © Bruce Goldstone)

Take note: That’s not Señor Chancho and it’s not Mr. Pig.
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How I Started in on Language Learning—And Gained a Lot More

Twelve years ago, this Mr. Chancho sign would have meant little to me. But now, whenever I look at this photo, it reminds me that any journey is full of surprises, if you’re open to them. I started out on a language learning mission, and wound up shifting my life goals along the way.

Goal One: A Healthy Brain

In 2002, I signed up for Spanish lessons at the Cervantes Institute in New York City. My goal was to keep my brain shipshape.

Studies, such as this one by Ellen Bialystok (Lifespan Cognition and Development Lab, York University), show that learning a second language can help delay or prevent Alzheimer’s. They also suggest that it’s never too late to start building a bilingual brain.

Why did I choose Spanish? It was a mainly arbitrary choice, heavily influenced by two of my good friends, one from Cuba and one from Spain.

Besides, Spanish makes sense in New York City where I live. Here you can find opportunities to practice in the subway, on local TV, or at almost any corner bodega.

Sign in a New York City optician, showing that language learning opportunities and new life goals, are easy to find in the city. (Image © Bruce Goldstone)

Español is never far away in New York City.
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Goal Two: Be Less Clueless

On the first day of class, Jorge Gallegos, my new professor, started with one of his favorite quizzes—How many Spanish-speaking countries could we name?

We coughed up Mexico, Spain, and a couple of others and then started to run out of steam. I’m sure you can do better than we did, can’t you? (You’ll find the full list at the bottom of this post.)

At last, with a map and Jorge’s gracious cajoling, we finally arrived at a list of the countries where Spanish is the main language. By the end of class, I had already sensed my first goal shift.

Sure, I wanted to exercise my brain. But maybe this class would help me be a bit less clueless about the world, too.

The class was great fun, and I definitely felt it working brain synapses that were either rusty or completely untapped. We followed immersion methodology. That means that from day one, we spoke only Spanish. It sounds impossible, but with a terrific, patient teacher, you’d be surprised. At least I was.

Along the way, Jorge told us a lot about his native country of Ecuador.

Skip ahead two years.

I decided that I’d like to try a full-on immersion in a Spanish-speaking country. Ecuador was a logical choice since I’d heard so many fascinating things about it from Jorge.

So I went to Cuenca for a month. High in the Andes, Cuenca is an utterly charming small town of tile roofs, Colonial architecture, and a church on every corner (or so it seems.)

Cuenca, Ecuador, the site of a language learning experience that caused the author to shift life goals. (Image © Bruce Goldstone)

Clay roofs, the central cathedral, and the Andes in Cuenca, Ecuador
© Bruce Goldstone

While there, I took four hours a day of classes at the Centro de Estudios Interamericanos (CEDEI), lived with a wonderful local family, and pushed my brain to exhaustion and beyond.

Daily classes taught me the importance of speaking up, even when you don’t have a clue what you’re saying and, most importantly, making mistakes.

Goal Three: Explore Culture Through Language

After school one day, I was wandering through the lovely streets of Cuenca and found Mr. Chancho, the smiling bilingual pig. While I was snapping a pic, I heard a drum and followed it through the alleys.

Children's parade in Cuenca, Ecuador, the beauty of which prompted the author to shift life goals for language learning. (Image © Bruce Goldstone)

Small boys, big moustaches
© Bruce Goldstone

I came upon a group of small children wearing Spanish style adult-costumes, complete with moustaches for the boys. They were riding horses decked out in crazy collages of empty liquor bottles and candies.

In my broken Spanish, I asked a bystander what was going on. It was a rehearsal for the Paseo del Niño, an annual parade that takes place each year before Christmas.

Children's parade in Cuenca, Ecuador, the beauty of which prompted the author to shift life goals for language learning. (Image © Bruce Goldstone)

Luckily for the horse, the bottles are empty.
© Bruce Goldstone

My brain was whirring with stimulation. Worries of Alzheimer’s felt years away as I watched the bright and beautiful children, chatted with their relatives, and admired the intricate handiwork of their costumes.

Watching this amazing parade was definitely an “Oh, I see” moment. I realized that my goal for learning Spanish had shifted completely.

What started as exercise for my brain had evolved into something much deeper and more intriguing—a deep craving to know more about Latin cultures.

My ostensible goal—to become fluent in Spanish—remains the same to this day. But the road I started is far from the road I ended up on. The journey has taken me from Ecuador to Spain, Mexico, and eventually Argentina, where I now spend about three months a year.

The more I learn about Latin culture, the happier I am that I started this adventure. Learning a new language is great, but stepping into new cultures is even better.

So now I think of Mr. Chancho (one of my favorite street signs from Cuenca) and his best friend, Mr. Pollo, and remember that being bilingual doesn’t mean just knowing two languages. It means understanding two cultures, and being willing to follow the odd drummer, wherever it leads you.

Bilingual sign in Ecuador, part of a language learning experience that caused a shift in life goals. (Image © Bruce Goldstone)

Mr. Chancho’s best friend
© Bruce Goldstone

I’m sure my brain is the better for my language learning efforts, but the effects have reached far more than my physical brain and its unused synapses. My whole outlook has changed because I took aim at one of my life goals and then landed somewhere else altogether.

Spanish-Speaking Countries: Argentina, Bolivia, Chile, Colombia, Costa Rica, Cuba, Dominican Republic, Ecuador, El Salvador, Equatorial Guinea, Guatemala, Honduras, Mexico, Nicaragua, Panama, Paraguay, Peru, Spain, Uruguay, Venezuela. Plus Puerto Rico and, of course, the United States.

Spanish Lessons: My first professor, Jorge Gallegos, now runs Easy Español, a language school where you can take classes in person, on-line, or both. He’s a great guy (and a good friend). Tell him Bruno sent you (that’s what I’m called in Argentina.)

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The World Weighs In On Gift Giving

by Sheron Long on December 2, 2013

Boy chasing after Santa and a gift, illustrating the pressures of the gift-giving season. (Image © Alphaspirit / iStock)

Chasing after the perfect gift
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There’s Wisdom in World Proverbs

The power of a considered gift is stunning. The world has told us that for years:

Gifts break rocks and melt hearts. —Uruguayan

Now that’s a high standard. How am I ever going to melt the hearts of everyone on my list? What happens if gifts exchanged aren’t “equal”? And how can I say “Thanks” and mean it?

I could have talked it over with my dog or asked Emily Post, but instead I decided to consult the whole wide world. Listen in on the conversation.

Girl holding out a gift, representing the act of gift giving. (Image © Kemal Bas / iStock)

Is it the gift or the smile behind it that melts the heart?
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Hey, World.  Where’s the Perfect Gift?

My husband Bob has it all—good looks, a fun personality. . . and too much stuff.

Ralph here. Ralph Waldo Emerson. Though my advice is not a proverb, it’s still quotable: The only gift is a portion of thyself. 

I don’t think this means to give him an arm and a leg—something more like an experience or an adventure, just spending time together?

I may be Author Unknown, but—yes, you’re right: Every day is a gift, and that is why it’s called the present. 

Oh, I see. The gift of time for Bob will melt his heart and keep clutter away. And here’s some real help from Brooke McAlary: 30 ideas for clutter-free gifts.

Family on a hike together, illustrating how time together is the best idea for gift giving.

Time together! For this year’s gift giving, get out of the house and keep the clutter from getting in.
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What If My Gift Isn’t “Equal”?

There are so many ways “equal” plays with your brain. Equal to last year. Equal to what I get. Equal in cost. Equal in expectations. Help me, world! Give me the gift of some good advice.

Giving is not trading. —Swahili

Hands that give also receive. —Ecuadoran

Wait a minute. That’s a contradiction, I think. Tell me more.

What you give you get, ten times over. —Yoruba

Starting to get it now. The gifts don’t have to be equal because just the giving gives the giver a rewarding gift, right?

Right!: A bit of the fragrance always clings to the hand that gives you roses. —Chinese

Man holding roses for gift giving. (Image © Plush Studios / Blend Images)

A good gift is thoughtful, chosen with your friend in mind.
That makes it equal, no matter what the cost.
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OK, I’m learning a lot, but here’s one thing I already know: The fun in giving is thinking about what jazzes your friend and connecting your gift to it. If you have a vampire friend, this means, “Don’t give garlic!”

Shocked vampire taking garlic out of a gift box, illustrating bad gift giving. (Image © Elisanth_ / iStock)

The perfect gift for a vampire is NOT garlic!
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But if you have a granddaughter who loves music and you have a talent, share it.

Learning is a treasure that will follow its owner everywhere. —Chinese

Christella Morris at Crawl the Line must already know this bit of wisdom, too—she gives such good ideas and even better reasons to share your experience and your time.

OIC again: When two people give each other something each one loves, the gifts are always equal.

Grandmother teaching her granddaughter to play the piano, illustrating the best kind of gift-gving. (Image © Jack Hollingsworth / Photodisc)

Passing on your gifts may be the most perfect gift of all.
© Jack Hollingsworth / Photodisc

What’s the Best Way to Say “Thanks”?

Long time ago, I learned about the mouth of the gift horse. As horses get older, their gums recede. Look closely and you can tell if the horse is old (long in the tooth) or new for you.  Guess that means it’s bad to inspect a gift too closely.

You can say that again, and how many ways do we have to tell you?

Look not a gift horse in the mouth. —Danish, Dutch, French, Italian, Spanish, Romanian

If you receive a gift, don’t measure it. —Kenyan

You do not look at a sheep someone has given you. —Swahili

 Alright. No inspecting, but—you know—it’s hard to hide your true feelings.

Man showing different emotions related to gift giving. (Image © Aleksandr Frolov / Hemera)

Tell me how you really feel!
© Aleksandr Frolov / Hemera

Being a bad liar, I need a world of help here. Last year, a good friend gave me a “Santa Liar, Pants on Fire” (perhaps to honor my obsession with honesty). It was a candle, and you get what part lit up. And you can imagine the position.

How can I say a genuine “Thanks” for that?

A stone from the hand of a friend is an apple. —Moroccan

The giver makes the gift precious. —American

Gee, thanks. All I needed was a new view.  Now I know if I focus on the thoughtful giver and not the gift, I’m sure to smile.

Girl giving gift to father, illustrating a proverb from world cultures. (Image © Todd Wright / Blend Images)

No matter how small the gift or the giver,
a look into your daughter’s eyes makes her gift special.
© Todd Wright / Blend Images

And with that, we wish you a happy gift-giving season, full of the proverbial wisdom from world cultures. Thanks for opening our posts this year. We hope the “Oh, I see” moments inside are gifts that put a smile on your face all year ’round.

Comment on this post below, or inspire insight with your own OIC Moment here.

Joshua Becker offers a treasure trove of intangible gifts that you can pass along to your children. 

Swahili proverbs are from the Center for African Studies at the University of Illinois. “Every day is a gift. . .” is from Inspiration Falls. All others are from one or more of the cross-cultural collections at Special Dictionary, Quotes & Sayings, or Proverbia

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