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Respecting Cultural Traditions and Taboos

by Meredith Mullins on March 9, 2020

Travelers can learn much from the Buddhism of Myanmar
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A Traveler’s View of the Buddhism of Myanmar

Not long ago, a crowd of tourists stood mid-street, jostling to claim the best photographic position as more than 1000 monks walked reverently in their procession for food and alms.

This exceptional experience takes place every morning at the Myanmar Mahagandayon Monastery, just south of Mandalay, as the monks prepare to receive their second (and final) meal of the day, which they must eat before noon. The maroon-robed devotees are humble. Their purpose pure.

Locals line the path, ready to give rice to the Mahagandayon monks.
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This day, two obnoxiously serious (or seriously obnoxious?) photographers elbowed each other for the best position. The monks were forced to walk around them.

The photographic elbowing turned to shoving. The shoving turned into a fist fight.

The monks focus on their walk, attempting to ignore distractions.
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Some of the monks broke ranks and tried to restore peace, but the visitors kept fighting. Finally, the police arrived.

The sacred moment had been shattered in the worst possible way. Common decency had been abandoned. A lesson in cultural taboos was there for all to see.

A local woman gives rice to young monks in a more natural moment of alms gathering
in Bagan, Myanmar. No throngs of tourists.
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A Sacred Trust

Mahagandayon is the largest monastery and Buddhist education center in Myanmar. This solemn daily procession should be a moment of quiet reverence and introspection. Instead, it had become a nightmare of tourism (including people trying to take selfies with the monks).

Peaceful daily life at the Mahagandayon Monastery
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After the “aggressive photographer” altercation, barricades were established at Mahagandayon so the monks could walk their path uninterrupted. Cameras were banned (although smart phones are allowed).

A solemn procession of monks and a barricaded crowd full of smart phones
(including mine I must admit).
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The crowds still come in droves. They line the sidewalk and thrust their phones into the street. Some still use cameras although the posted signs are clear. The monks walk on.

This daily event—that now falls somewhere between a Disney parade and a zoo-like example of dehumanization—raises the question of how to show respect for a culture . . . and for the religious traditions of a country.

It also asks the question of why do the monasteries and temples continue to allow tourists.

The answers are complex.

Monasteries welcome visitors to show how meditation and study are an integral part of Buddhism.
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In general, monasteries and temples welcome visitors. It’s part of the generous spirit of Buddhism.

The monks or nuns can offer a glimpse into the world of their religion so that there is a better understanding of the philosophies and practices. Also, the monasteries rely on donations from the lay community for their very survival.

Most of the people of Myanmar spend at least some time in a monastery—as a way to ensure a good education, to have food and shelter that might not be available to them due to economic circumstances, and to see if being a monk or nun is a good fit for their life path.

Monasteries offer education, food, shelter, and religious guidance to all who come.
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The questions for travelers are these . . . How can we experience these kinds of special moments (with or without cameras)? How can we record the highlights for our visual memory, but be unobtrusive and respectful in doing so.  And . . . is it really necessary to record every moment of a journey?

The way we answer these questions is at the heart of the travel experience.

The person-to-person purity of the Buddhist travel experience
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The Honorable Traveler: Cultural Etiquette

When stepping into another culture as a visitor, good travel etiquette dictates knowing the rules and being as respectful as possible.

There is no shortage of signage reminding visitors of the rules of respect.
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For Theravada Buddhism in Myanmar, here are some guidelines:

  • As with any religious place, whether a tourist attraction or not, common elements of respect prevail. Turn off mobile phones. Lower your voice. Don’t smoke or chew gum.

Experience the peace of the temples and monasteries in your own quiet way.
(Shwenandaw Monastery in Mandalay)
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  • Wear appropriate clothing (cover bare arms and legs to at least the knees, remove hats). This may be challenging for visitors who dress to beat the heat; but, often the temples will provide special clothing for you so that you can meet these guidelines of modesty.
  • Take off your shoes before entering a temple, and, in Myanmar, your socks also.

Don’t be afraid to remove shoes and socks. The temple floors are kept quite clean.
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  • Don’t disturb people in prayer or meditation in the temples.
  • Don’t touch, sit near, or climb on a Buddha statue or the platform it sits on. Don’t pose with a Buddha statue for a selfie.

Tempting as it may be, don’t pose with a statue of Buddha.
(One of the four gold buddha statues at the Ananda Temple in Bagan.)
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  • Don’t sit with your feet pointed at a Buddha or a person. Feet are seen as the unholiest part of the body.
  • Don’t touch a monk or a monk’s robe.
  • Don’t point at things with your index finger.
  • Donate to the temple or monastery when possible. These donations help to augment the often meager operating budgets. Even a small amount will be appreciated.
  • Don’t buy Buddha statues just for decoration or as souvenirs. They should be objects of worship.

Buddha statues aren’t souvenirs. They are for worship only.
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  • Don’t get a Buddha tattoo—disrespectful on so many levels. (There are examples of arrests in Myanmar of people who had visible Buddha tattoos, especially on the leg, since lower body parts are considered less clean.)
  • You don’t need to be Buddhist to pay respect to Buddha. It is polite to place your hands together in a praying position when passing Buddha.
  • Be thoughtful when making photographs. Ask permission of people when possible.
  • Follow the guidance of the head of a monastery or nunnery. The monks or novices should be treated with respect (especially if you’re photographing). Some of the novices are just children who want to have moments of play. But the work of education is serious, and should be shown as such.

Myanmar has laws against “insulting religion” or “hurting religious feelings.”

Sometimes the best experience is discovered on some dusty road . . . into the past. (Bagan)
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Beyond the Guidelines: “Oh, I See” Moments

A better way to experience the culture is to go to the less-traveled monasteries, schools, and temples.

Get permission of the head monk, guru, priest, or abbot/abbess; talk with the monks or nuns; make a connection; learn about the culture; and make a donation to help support their future. Become part of the natural rhythms.

On my recent visit to Myanmar, there were many memorable moments (and special photographs) at these nontourist destinations.

We were given a chanted blessing at this nunnery in Mandalay that we will
remember for a long time.
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There are, of course, underlying political issues as well as past and recent historical events that run deeper than these simple rules of cultural etiquette. But, it is important to remember that Buddhism is at the center of the Myanmar/Burmese national identity.

A moment of reverent study
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Knowing the cultural traditions and taboos and showing respect is the responsibility of the honorable traveler and opens the door to deeper personal understanding, as well as memorable adventures.

Kyay Zuu Tin Par Tal (ကျေးဇူးတင်ပါတယ်), Myanmar.

Opening a door to personal understanding
(Shwedagon Pagoda in Yangon)
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Thank you to Hanuman Travel, a Cambodian based travel company, and to our extraordinary guide Sai Thant Zin Phyo. The trip was organized by Richard Murai and the nonprofit Center for Photographic Art.

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Travels to the Past—Angkor, Cambodia

by Meredith Mullins on March 3, 2020

The Ta Prohm Temple, intentionally left in its natural state to show what explorers
found in the 19th century.
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Lost Among the Ruins in One of the Most Amazing Places on Earth

Many years ago, I saw a photograph of a multi-rooted tree swallowing an ancient temple in one overgrown gulp.

For me, the siren’s call came through with haunting clarity. It was then and there—through a National Geographic image—that I knew I had to see these ruins, lost in the jungles of Cambodia. Even the name—Angkor Wat—exuded mystery.

A Barking Good Time in Carmel-by-the-Sea

by Meredith Mullins on January 27, 2020

Too cool . . . in Carmel-by-the-Sea
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The Art of Travel in Dog-Friendly Cities

Are you yearning for a spirited run on one of the most beautiful beaches in the world? Are you dreaming of a shopping spree for something sparkly, or a couture halter or tie. Are you thirsty for a round of martinis at Happy Hour, as you relax on a fire-pitted, flower-filled patio?

Running free on one of the most beautiful beaches in the world
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Most humans would treasure such a “to do” list. But this particular agenda caters to the canine vision of paradise. (In fact, muttinis are served during Yappy Hour, to be precise.)

Not Muttini Hour, but Piper enjoys quiet conversation with his friend Catherine.
The Papillon breed can sit at attention, as if on a royal cushion, and is elegant in table etiquette
(that is, only gobbles food if invited).
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This is life in Carmel-by-the-Sea, California—one of the most dog-friendly cities in the world.

One of the dog friendliest cities in the world
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There’s No Place Like Home

Full disclosure. This is the home base for OIC Moments. Although we’re an international publication, and the writers are always roaming the globe, our headquarters are in Carmel, where “village” life takes priority.

Carmel-by-the-Sea: Paradise . . . for humans and dogs.

There’s no place like home. Click your heels three times and you’ll find yourself in Carmel paradise. A city with no neon signs, no fast food, no street addresses, no parking meters, no streetlights, no national chain coffee shops, and a permit needed to wear high heels on the streets (for the health and safety of the women walking the uneven pavements that have been distorted by tree roots).

Dogs don’t need fast food, street addresses, or streetlights.
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And if dogs click their paws three times, they will find themselves in Dog Heaven on Earth.

Who’s a good boy? You’re a good boy.
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Everything is Pawsible

On any given stroll through Carmel, you’ll notice quite a few wagging tails—dog after dog after dog. All sizes. All breeds. All happy.

A typical day in dog-friendly Carmel-by-the-Sea
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There are dog water bowls in front of shops, dog treats at the local bakeries, shops dedicated to every possible pet desire, a water fountain just for dogs in the Carmel Plaza (The Fountain of Woof), biodegradable mitts at the ready, and a range of restaurants and hotels that welcome dogs as guests with their humans.

A city of water bowls
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Dogs are even welcome at some of the spas, and can hop up on the massage table to be with their human (or to get a massage themselves).

The Fountain of Woof, an elegant watering hole in dog-friendly Carmel Plaza
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In the Beginning . . .

The dog legacy started long ago, but many people give credit to animal lovers Dennis LeVett, film star Doris Day, and Doris’ son Terry. Doris and Dennis became the co-owners of the Cypress Inn (on Lincoln Street) in the 1980s and made sure that four-legged friends would be welcome.

A tribute to one of Dennis LeVett’s poodles
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Since then, the hotel has been named “pet friendliest hotel” by many publications.

Orchids and dog biscuits at check-in
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Its amenities include treat bowls throughout the hotel, an outdoor dog-sized shower for rinsing off after a romp at the beach, dog blankets and water bowls in the rooms, and some rooms with balconies so a lucky dog can keep an eye on the passing parade in the street below.

Elegant amenities for all the guests at the Cypress Inn
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The Cypress Inn also has a terrace restaurant and fireside living room that welcome dogs, and, of course, dog cuisine on the restaurant menu, like beef patties and grilled chicken.

Murphy and Bruiser relax on the Cypress Inn terrace.
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The hotel staff keep dog profiles on file, so they can welcome back these four-legged guests by name—especially important since they have so many return visitors.

As Operations Manager Khamis Haji says, “They’d rather you remember their dog’s name than their own. If you think you’ve seen someone love their dog, you haven’t seen anything yet. The people who come to Cypress Inn would do anything for their pets.”

There are not enough treats in the world for the dog you love.
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It’s especially fun to come during special events, like Poodle Day. Dogs spend hours at salons getting groomed and pampered. They then search for an outfit to outdo even the most stunning couture. It’s a dog version of Oscar night.

A map of Carmel notes all the dog friendly places with a tiny dog icon.
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Life Can Be Ruff, But Not in Carmel

The city of Carmel has added to the Cypress Inn culture by making dogs an equal opportunity group. The city map is filled with tiny dog icons, indicating dog-friendly places.

Dog cookies at The Dog House
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Dogs can go not only into designated restaurants and hotels, but they are allowed in most shops. They no longer have to wait patiently outside.

Rocco checks out the “impulse buys” at the counter.
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There are also several boutiques dedicated exclusively to all things pet. You can find haute dog couture, rhinestone collars, designer water bowls, and cocktail toys such as a stuffed Arfsolut Vodka bottle or a Johnnie Dogwalker Ruff Label Old Scottie Whiskey.

Fur and Sparkle: Dog Haute Couture
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Remember Rocco? He’s looking stylish in his new rhinestone collar.
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And when their humans get hungry, they can peruse the local dog menus for delicacies, such as the Hot Diggity Dog (an all-beef kosher hot dog) and the Quarter Hounder (a quarter pound hamburger patty) found at one of the dog-friendly restaurants (Forge in the Forest).

The best of canine cuisine
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For the true sense of freedom, dogs are allowed off leash on Carmel Beach and at Mission Trails Park, as long as they’re under voice command and get along well with their peers.

Bruno wonders what to do with all this freedom.
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All of these special privileges and accoutrements confirm Carmel’s international reputation as one of the most amazing dog-friendly cities on Earth.

Who wouldn’t be this guy’s best friend?
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Best Friends


“I have found that when you are deeply troubled, there are things you get from the silent devoted companionship of a
dog that you can get from no other source.”Doris Day

The “Oh, I see” moments in dog-friendly Carmel-by-the Sea are many. But, for me, the positive energy that dogs bring to the world is undeniably life-changing.

Eternally curious
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They love unconditionally. They are curious about life. They are forever loyal. They look forward to meeting other beings. They are genuine and honest. And they bring out the best in their humans.

What better way to change the world.

Dogs are treated like any other guests at the Cypress Inn.
© Meredith Mullins

Thank you to the City of Carmel and the following dog-friendly Carmel businesses: Cypress Inn, The Dog House, Diggidy Dog, Forge in the Forest, The Animal Friends Rescue Project (Pacific Grove). Visit here for more information on Poodle Day.

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