In a New Yorker cartoon entitled “How to Clear a Space at a Crowded Beach,” a man says hello to all and sundry. His cheeriness so horrifies New Yorkers that hundreds collectively retreat.

Oh, I see: Some people like saying hello. Some people give hello the heave-ho.

In Galway, Ireland, (pop. 258,000) passersby often say hello to one another. Nothing fancy, mind you. A quick tap of the second syllable and you’re on your way. In Istanbul, Turkey (pop. 15 million) a local who said hello to passersby would prompt a puzzled reaction.

Does higher population density = fewer hellos? In New York City, saying hello to your neighbors in just one square mile would take you 2 weeks, 4 days, and 16 hours.

How Do You Hello?

Every culture has numerous ways to say hello, from Hi to Sula manchwanta galunga omugobe. Some greetings translate as questions: “Where are you going?” (Philippines) “Have you eaten?” (China) “Have you slept well?” (central Africa)

Business greetings vary across cultures, too. Leaving an office in Europe for one in Southern California, I often encountered hugs instead of handshakes. Yet saying hello to my SoCal neighbors elicited wary looks, as if I might be a time-share vendor eager to make a sale.

In Japanese business settings, hugs are unheard of, handshakes uncommon, and elaborate etiquette governs bowing and the exchange of business cards. But it was Japanese psychology that taught me a simple path to resilience during challenging times: maintain the practice of saying hello.

In France, entering a shop without saying Bonjour, Madame (or Monsieur) is considered rude. Ditto Merci, au revoir as you leave. France is also where I’ve seen people say hello on entering elevators or when passing in corridors. It’s no come-on, just good manners.

Hello Kissy

Some cultures kiss hello. Career diplomat Andy Scott has navigated greetings in 60 countries, where the proper number of kisses can vary from one (Colombia) to eight (Afghanistan). In One Kiss or Two? The Art and Science of Saying Hello (The Overlook Press, available March 2018) Scott guides readers through greeting etiquette across cultures in all its air-kissing, high-fiving, nose-rubbing, cheek-sniffing, foot-kissing, floor-spitting, tongue-sticking, hand-clapping variety.

Hello, Fellow Human

Hello goes beyond words and gestures. Think of all the times you make eye contact with strangers—approaching the paper-towel dispenser in a restroom, finding a seat at the doctor’s office. Maybe you’ve shared an empathetic grimace with others in line at the DMV, or traded sheepish grins with a fellow shopper as you negotiated a narrow grocery aisle with oversized shopping carts.

What difference can such fleeting contact make? A lot. In 2011, researchers at Purdue University noted that humans have “evolved systems to detect the slightest cues of inclusion or exclusion. For example, simple eye contact is sufficient to convey inclusion. In contrast, withholding eye contact can signal exclusion” making people feel invisible.

They named their study after a German expression, wie Luft behandeln—“To Be Looked at as Though Air”—and added a telling subtitle: “Civil Attention Matters.”

Hello, Anyone Here?

Eye contact is in shorter supply these days, as staring at smartphones becomes the default pause filler. And not just among the young.

Many of us clamp on headphones the moment we board trains, planes, and buses. But a 2014 study of Chicago commuters by the University of California Berkeley found that those who engaged another passenger in conversation were much happier.

I’m an irrepressible hello-er. Otherwise, I would have missed a wonderful dinner conversation last night with my friends Ann and Caitlin. After all, a few hours earlier, we hadn’t yet met.

To Greet or Not to Greet

Saying hello connects us, yet saying hello is a risk. We love getting out of the house for the social atmosphere of a café. Then we crouch behind our laptops.

Saying hello breaks down barriers. When a toddler says “Hi” in a public space it sparks friendly exchanges among nearby adults.

The Power of Saying Hello

Once upon a time, at a college orientation, a young man saw a beautiful fellow student. At a loss for a clever opening line, he opted for “Hello.”

So, don’t say goodbye to saying hello. Greetings vary across cultures, but in every language of the world, saying hello welcomes a world of possibility. Sometimes the sweetest possibility of all.

Comment on this post below, or inspire insight with your own OIC Moment here.

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Saying hello is saying yes to life.
\u00a9 Joyce McGreevy<\/p><\/div>\n

Meeting & Greeting Across Cultures<\/h2>\n
In a New Yorker cartoon entitled \u201cHow to Clear a Space at a Crowded Beach,\u201d a man says hello to all and sundry. His cheeriness so horrifies New Yorkers that hundreds collectively retreat.<\/p>\n
Oh, I see:<\/strong> Some people like saying hello. Some people give hello the heave-ho.<\/p>\n
In Galway, Ireland, (pop. 258,000) passersby often say hello to one another. Nothing fancy, mind you. A quick tap of the second syllable\u00a0<\/i>and you’re on your way.\u00a0In Istanbul, Turkey (pop. 15 million) a local who said hello to passersby would prompt a puzzled reaction.<\/p>\n
Yet people in both cities are notably friendly.<\/p>\n
Does higher population density = fewer hellos?\u00a0In New York City, saying hello to your neighbors in just one square mile would take you 2 weeks, 4 days, and 16 hours.<\/p>\n

How Do You Hello?<\/h4>\n
Every culture has numerous ways to say hello, from Hi<\/em>\u00a0to\u00a0Sula manchwanta galunga omugobe<\/em>. Some greetings translate as questions: \u201cWhere are you going?\u201d (Philippines) \u201cHave you eaten?\u201d (China) \u201cHave you slept well?\u201d (central Africa)<\/p>\n
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There’s a world of ways to say hello!
\u00a9 annatodica\/iStock<\/p><\/div>\n
Business greetings vary across cultures, too. Leaving an office in Europe for one in Southern California, I often encountered hugs instead of handshakes. Yet saying hello to my SoCal neighbors elicited wary looks, as if I might be a time-share vendor eager to make a sale.<\/p>\n
In Japanese business settings, hugs are unheard of, handshakes uncommon, and elaborate etiquette governs bowing and the exchange of business cards. But it was Japanese psychology that taught me a simple path to resilience during challenging times: maintain the practice of saying hello.<\/p>\n
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There’s nothing cheesy about saying hello!
\u00a9 Joyce McGreevy<\/p><\/div>\n
In France, entering a shop without saying Bonjour, Madame<\/em> (or Monsieur<\/em>) is considered rude. Ditto Merci, au revoir<\/em> as you leave.\u00a0France is also where I\u2019ve seen people say hello on entering elevators or when passing in corridors. It\u2019s no come-on, just good manners.<\/p>\n
Hello Kissy<\/strong><\/h4>\n
Some cultures kiss hello. Career diplomat Andy Scott has navigated greetings in 60 countries, where the proper number of kisses can vary from one (Colombia) to eight (Afghanistan). In One Kiss or Two?<\/a> The Art and Science of Saying Hello<\/em> (The Overlook Press, available March 2018) Scott guides readers through greeting etiquette across cultures in all its air-kissing, high-fiving, nose-rubbing, cheek-sniffing, foot-kissing, floor-spitting, tongue-sticking, hand-clapping variety.<\/p>\n
Hello, Fellow Human<\/h4>\n
Hello goes beyond words and gestures.\u00a0Think of all the times you make eye contact with strangers\u2014approaching the paper-towel dispenser in a restroom, finding a seat at the doctor’s office. Maybe you’ve shared an empathetic grimace with others in line at the DMV, or traded sheepish grins with a fellow shopper as you negotiated a narrow grocery aisle with oversized shopping carts.<\/p>\n
What difference can such fleeting contact make? \u00a0A lot. In 2011, researchers at Purdue University noted that humans have \u201cevolved systems to detect the slightest cues of inclusion or exclusion. For example, simple eye contact is sufficient to convey inclusion. In contrast, withholding eye contact can signal exclusion\u201d making people feel invisible.<\/p>\n
They named their study after a German expression, wie Luft behandeln<\/em>\u2014\u201cTo Be Looked at as Though Air\u201d\u2014and added a telling subtitle: \u201cCivil Attention Matters.\u201d<\/p>\n
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A warm greeting can make the world of difference.
\u00a9 Banepx\/iStock<\/p><\/div>\n
Hello, Anyone Here?<\/h4>\n
Eye contact is in shorter supply these days, as staring at smartphones becomes the default pause filler. And not just among the young.<\/p>\n
Many of us clamp on headphones the moment we board trains, planes, and buses. But a 2014 study of Chicago commuters by the University of California Berkeley found that\u00a0those who engaged another passenger in conversation were much happier.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m an irrepressible hello-er. Otherwise, I would have missed a wonderful dinner conversation last night with my friends Ann and Caitlin. After all, a few hours earlier, we hadn\u2019t yet met.<\/p>\n
To Greet or Not to Greet<\/h4>\n
Saying hello connects us, yet saying hello is a risk. We love getting out of the house for the social atmosphere of a caf\u00e9. Then we crouch behind our laptops.<\/p>\n
Saying hello breaks down barriers. When a toddler says \u201cHi\u201d in a public space it sparks friendly exchanges among nearby adults.<\/p>\n
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Even as babies, we instantly process the emotional significance of a wave.
\u00a9 M-image\/iStock<\/p><\/div>\n
The Power of Saying Hello<\/strong><\/h4>\n
Once upon a time, at a college orientation, a young man saw a beautiful fellow student. At a loss for a clever opening line, he opted for “Hello.”<\/p>\n
They’re happily married now.<\/p>\n
So, don’t say goodbye to saying hello. Greetings vary across cultures, but in every language of the world, saying hello welcomes a world of possibility. Sometimes the sweetest possibility of all.<\/p>\n
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To say hello is to greet life with open arms.
\u00a9 Joyce McGreevy<\/p><\/div>\n
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